At our support group we as parents viewed this dvd and found the information very helpful. The role playing is also helpful, it gives parents a vision of how to respond in a way that is less emotional and more productive. our support group has viewed many of the total transformation dvd's and I feel they are right on track with helping parents, if they are willing to put the time and commitment into the program.
I am a K-5 music teacher, and I teach at a school that has several challenging students. I needed help trying to find a way to build a relationship in the short time I see them once a week that didn't leave them out feeling lost, or that I was too mean or unfair. This program truly helped me see where some of my communication problems were and where I could learn to help them to help themselves. I understand how important it is for students to take responsibility for their actions and to be held accountable for them.
I purchased the program because my children were getting to the point that I couldn't handle them anymore and I was running out of things and ways to get them to listen. The program helped me in ways that I though I would never get help. My kids have started to listen and respect me like never before. I thank this program for help me and my children.
Even though I had completed the total transformation program, my developmentally delayed daughter who still has teen attitude problems was leaving me hopeless. Mr. Leman's "Getting through to your child" helped me to re-evaluate and have a strategy to use when her attitude was destroying the peace of the entire household. She now knows that when I walk away and tell her to let me know when she is ready to discuss the issue at hand--on my terms-that I mean it. Compliance is coming much smoother.
I've been using the Total Transformation Program and have been having success. However, my son continued to act out. The Getting Through to Your Child DVD program taught me why: "When your child acts out, he's doing it to solve a problem." I had failed to give my son other ways of solving problems. He needed those skills, too. And this DVD showed me exactly what to say, in script form, for doing just that.
It was a very simple approach which I thought was very effective. The video stressed the need to stay on the point and make one's statements to the child clear and short. Also asking the child for his input and how to do this. I intend to practice with another adult to master this technique.
I have a two sons with adhd 1 is 20 and 1 is 9. When the 20 year old was young, I said here take this pill I got to go to work. With the second son I started taking him to counseling and only getting more and more agree because the counselor thought things were no big deal WRONG... I always knew the cop wasn't gonna let my son get away with things. Then I found Total Transformation and it is a dream come true. It gives me back the authority that as a parent is required. I found this information very very good and have let my children watch it. Amazing how when they see it on tv it makes since to them too. They're always sorry for their behavior - but it's changing their behavior that even they are recognizing......
I purchased this program for help with my adhd child mainly. it helps in some areas and in some it doesnt. Some of the consequences are beyond our means - my kids have no cell phones, no ipods. and they just keep turning the tv back on. Also, as a single parent with a weird scheduled job, i can't always be there to control the electronics. I think this is a great resource and i am trying to implement it because i think that it can work and would like to thank you for your help.
As a therapist with 34 years of professional experience working with children, teens, parents, and families, I need to tell you that the video "Getting Through to Your Kid" is the best piece of work and most effective video I have ever viewed, bar none, for "Getting Through To Their Parents" that I have ever seen in my professional career. That is not an exaggeration in any way. Thank you so much for producing this video and course, along with all your other resources.
Please...make and produce continuation videos in this same style, with many, many, more scenarios including a wide variety of other common parenting issues, demonstrating the same "Alternative Response" steps, and I will buy them all. Repetition of this process, applied to other typical conflicts, would be a fantastic extension of this body of work that the parents (me included) would gobble up, and I believe seeing the same process applied in all of them would help them to master these tools and skills.
Oh yeah, I also have to tell you that the actors you used are without a doubt the most talented I've seen in any of the many parenting videos I've seen or used in my practice, and the acting comes across with such authenticity that both the parents and kids who view them report that they appear so "real life" that they instantly find themselves identifying with them. They tell me that this gives them a sense of hope that they too just might be able to improve their relationships with their kids, and become more effective, as a result of these videos, and the tools that are so clearly demonstrated in them.
Steven B. Cherman, L.C.S.W.